Touche (with an accent over the e) Yes I am the common factor. Through it all I learned self respect, discernment, and not to put my hand in the fire and the real reason why men cheat. Which I shall write about soon. Also compatibility to me now is a top priority instead of being so impressed by their flair and talent. Except I am not looking any more. Also the high school boyfriend wanted to marry me but I turned him down. As with the other proposals. They didn't leave me, I left them.